Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Grandfather's Wooden Bowl

"A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in- law, and four-year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table, but the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in- law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about Grandfather, ” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.” Therefore, the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.

There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?”

Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather’ s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days, he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled."

I have always thought that scenarios like these only happen in stories or overly sappy Chinese drama serials. Well sadly, our stories and crappy drama serials are based on real life and more often then not, it doesn't end quite as sweetly as the story.

1 comment:

Darren said...

very meaningful story. Your comments sadly ring true in today's world; many young couples neglect their elders in their self-pursuits of the 5Cs and other what-have-yous.
Always love and care for your parents/grandparents, the joy & blessings you get is priceless.
Reminds me of that other old Chinese story;
A man's mother was getting older and more frail with time. One day his wife and him conspire to carry her in a basket up the mountains (gotta be some mountain-plenty country like China or Taiwan i reckon) and leave her up there.
Man's son eagerly watches daddy build a human-carrying basket.
So day comes and father takes his mother up the mountains to leave her there.
Poor mum seems to know his intention and her fate. She sits quietly, tears coming down her eyes.
As man turns to leave, his son yells out "daddy daddy dont forget your basket!".
Dad says "dont need it son". At which little boy replies "yes I need it to take you and mummy up here next time"